I have found that when life gets a little too busy that time for myself becomes essential. “Me time” is more than just a pamper session, a shopping spree or a vacation, but it is an opportunity to self-check. While all of these things can be part of your me time, the most important part of the equation is myself; self-love, self-care & self-check.

Self-check’s are essential because I’m tuning out the noise & focusing in on what matters the most. By doing this, I’m able to tune out the noise of life, eliminate distractions, and amplify my own voice. I have been able to maintain my balance and my sanity by taking time to reflect, refocus, and recharge.

These three simple steps have helped me to realign my focus & my life.


When I reflect I’m not looking at the past as a mistake but as a point of reference.  It is simply a period that is written on the page, so I review it and move on. I refuse to allow my future to be stunted by the past because everything worth having is ahead. My successes and failures can be used to my advantage when I reflect because I’m accepting the lesson & seeing the blessing, that’s often in disguise.

Reflection is such a powerful concept. It gives you the opportunity to refine your focus and determine a path forward. Reflection works best when you’re in total solitude. Having this time to meditate, pray, and absolve is invaluable. So allocate some time during the day, whether it’s 5 minutes or 30 minutes. Grab a notebook, write out your vision, and realign your life.


Realigning your life and your focus is simple & requires you to manage your expectations.

The next part of about refocusing is to consider your expectations for yourself, not the expectations of your family, your significant other, your boss or your friends. The quickest to get to where you want to be is to write it down. Although I’ve heard it a thousand times dreams become vision when you write them down, and then they become easier to execute. My expectations for myself this year, deal mostly with my career and blog. I’ve decided to not only branch out and complete a new Leadership program, learn about a new aspect of my field, but to also focus on building my brand and blog.

Since I’ve chosen these three focus areas,  I’ll make sure to direct my time, energy & focus toward perfecting them. When it comes to reaching a personal goal, a little sacrifice goes a long way.  You have to be a little stingy with your time and attention; whether that means having protected time to focus on goals, not accepting some social invitations, writing after making dinner, or not watching as much tv. While the plan isn’t perfect, it brings you one step closer to refocusing on the most important person in your story, you. When you think about it you alone are responsible for your spiritual, physical, and mental health.


When I recharge, I’m allowing time to focus on my spiritual, physical and mental health. This part of the self-check is vital because recharging your mind, body, and soul is necessary; whether you are exercising, aligning your Chakra, meditating, praying or simply practicing stillness. All of it nurtures your mind, body, and soul. When any of these becomes depleted, it creates a ripple effect in another area of life. Over time, I’ve found that finding & seeking inspiration is essential.

When I’m seeking inspiration I usually find it in a great book & a spot-on podcast. Some of my favorite podcasts are– Terri Savelle Foy’s Podcast, Entrepreneur on Fire by John Lee Dumas, Super Soul Sessions by Oprah, and Steven Furtick of Elevation.  While I’m currently reading Don Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, I also recommend Blue Ocean Strategy by W.Chan Kim & Renee Mauborgne,  The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, and Discerning the Voice of God by Priscilla Shirer.  I highly recommend each of these podcasts and books; they have each played a part in self-checks by elevating my mind and spirit through daily inspiration.

What are some of the books & podcasts that you read or listen to for inspiration? How do you reflect, refocus, and recharge? I’d love to hear from you, so feel free to leave a comment below!